Getting Someone to Respond to You

I worked in recruiting for more than 40 years before transitioning into coaching. There are few more difficult situations for people to receive responses to calls or messages than the time after an interview.

After all, people want to know where they stand, and often the person they’re calling has no conclusive information. Stuck in limbo, people started calling the recruiter, both corporate and third-party, they tried reaching the hiring manager without success.

Why is there no response?

Two reasons — no decision and no desire to get into an argument.

There is no decision because people are continuing to interview because they’re not completely satisfied. They have no desire to cancel an argument because they have chosen someone else and don’t want to do anything more than move on.

Yes, you can interpret their behavior which is what I tell people to do. However, sometimes the issue is they have just forgotten to follow up. Thus your message to them is helpful because it reminds them that they haven’t heard back from the hiring manager, the team, whomever.

Thus, if you haven’t heard back from someone after two attempts to reach them by email or phone, or encourage you to do is leave a message or make it the subject line of your email/text saying, “Are you OK?”