By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
One day, my wife called upset. She is not a crier but was crying. The specific circumstances aren’t important. She was crying and I was determined to do what I often do which is solve the problem. She let me know this was the wrong thing to do.
“I don’t need your help! I don’t need to be fixed! I need to be listened to.”
I was reminded that sometimes people just need to be heard.
Sometimes, people want you to listen and ask questions that show your concern.
They are upset by what happened. The upset of the moment fried their circuits and they need to release the pressure.
That was true of my wife.
That has been said to countless others who wanted to be listened to.
Sometimes, talking to an older individual, male or female, who instinctively you want to reach out to, who sees you and cares about you and isn’t trying to fix you is what you need.
Speaking the words that make no sense and all the sense can be cathartic. They have been living between your use, burrowing into your psyche like a squirrel hiding notes for winter. They need to be fumigated.
Sometimes, speaking the words releases a flood of emotion is overwhelming.
