One day, my wife called upset. She is not a crier but was crying. The specific circumstances aren’t important. She was crying and I was determined to do what I often do which is solve the problem. She let me know this was the wrong thing to do.
“I don’t need your help! I don’t need to be fixed! I need to be listened to.”
I was reminded that sometimes people just need to be heard.
Sometimes, people want you to listen and ask questions that show your concern.
They are upset by…
I recently interviewed Kate Dixon for Job Search TV on YouTube, Amazon, Roku, and elsewhere about mistakes people make when negotiating the total compensation. It may be available on No BS Job Search Advice Radio by the time you read this. Kate is the author of “Pay Up!: Unlocking Insider Secrets of Salary Negotiation.
Here’s a summary of the points she made. You can watch the complete interview here.
10. You treat the negotiation like it’s a cage match. You fight to the death and cause damage to your reputation in the process…
By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
The hiring process is often a complicated one. There are many factors to consider that involve firms, hiring managers, and human resources professionals. But as a career and leadership coach, I’ve seen that sometimes hiring practices can actually undercut an organization’s goals.
Below are four common mistakes that can cause your process to take much longer than it needs to:
Targeting Only ‘Passive’ Applicants
When I started my first search firm in the early ’70s, my business partner and I were inexperienced. Potential clients often asked, “Why should we…
Who is the most powerful gatekeeper? You know, the one you believe who really keeps you from doing things? I know who it is . . . And I bet you do, too.
I’m Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I coach people. I do job search and leadership coaching. I’m the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com.
You know, I worked in recruiting for many years. I’ve helped the one men’s retreats around the country. I have an MSW. I did some Institute Training at a psychoanalytic institute in New…
“In the end, just three things matter.
How well we have lived,
How well we have loved,
How well we have
Learned to let go.”
The old way of living will never return.
You are fooling yourself if you think we will be returning to what used to be called “normal.”
The term “The New Normal” has been used frequently to describe circumstances far less traumatic than those we’ve experienced over the past year.
No one is planning community mask burnings where a bonfire is lit, and everyone throws their masks in…
In a Funk | Career Angles
I’ve noticed over the past few days that I feel like I am in a funk.
I don’t want to use the clinical term “depression” because I want to leave that to its intended purpose — a clinical diagnosis.
I’m not clinically depressed.
I’m feeling sad and lonely.
My wife has been away for almost three months caring for her sister.
She and my son check in with me daily.
But I am in the house by myself, lonely and frustrated.
Lonely because I miss the moments…
Not long ago, Indeed.com had a terrific commercial where everyone gathered in the conference room for the big announcement of who got the promotion to senior VP. As the announcement is made, we see the hurt and disappointment on Claire’s face as she is passed over for the job and Mike is chosen. At that very moment, a text comes in, and another firm hires her. It closes with the voiceover — “it wasn’t the first time that this happened, but it would be the last time.”
That was how I felt a…
When I graduated from college, I wanted to be a lawyer. I wanted to become one because I used to watch the old tv show, “Perry Mason,” and was able to figure out the murderer every week for years on end. I also noticed that Mason only took two checks — one was from a little old lady who he saved from a death sentence and she paid him something like $25. The other check he took made his eyes light up when he read it. “Thank you very much,” he proclaimed. …
One of the criticisms companies receive is that they are focused on quarterly earnings. Few companies think strategically about their businesses and, as a result, so many look for short-term profitability to the detriment of long-term thinking and planning.
And how is that different than how you conduct yourself in your career? Seriously. What do you do to regularly plant seeds to harvest later on?
One of my guests on “Job Search Radio,” provided the statistic that 70% of all positions are filled as a result of networking and 70% of the 70%…
Rules are both comforting and annoying.
We agree to abide by them to get many of the benefits of society at large.
Sometimes, rules feel punitive.
Sometimes rules feel crushing.
Most of the time, we are not to the fact that we’re living with rules because we’ve internalized them so profoundly that we become numb to them.
Blind habits turn into rules we live by.
We stop thinking about them and how they affect us.
We become another spoke in the hub, gear in the machine, however you want to describe it!